Persistence means I work hard to finish what I start. I don’t give up.
“If Perseverance (persistence) is your top strength, you work hard to
finish what you start. No matter the project, you “get it out the door” in
timely fashion. You do not get distracted when you work, and you take
satisfaction in completing tasks”.
According to Angela Duckworth it is “grit” that makes people
successful. Grit is a combination of passion and persistence
(perseverance) and can grow. Grit is a bit like drive and is the secret to
Having a range of problem-solving skills on board enable us to cope with challenges we may fact in the future. The World Health Organisation identifies problem-solving as a key skill for health. Problem solving is about being able to think critically and evaluate the consequences of various actions.
People who are prudent think carefully and make smart choices.
Sometimes this can mean taking on the position of a leader by being a positive bystander. It can also mean applying strategies that can be used in situations one may feel uncomfortable.
The Kids helpline website has a series of social stories or scenarios which can help children when faced with uncomfortable situations. There are also ideas of where to seek help when other avenues such as family/teachers/friends etc have been explored.
“I forgive people who hurt me and give people a second chance. I put my sadness behind me and move forward”.
Forgiveness means letting go of hard feelings like anger, sadness, or frustration that happen when you or someone else makes a mistake. It’s saying “Thank you” or “That’s okay” when someone apologises and not staying upset about what they did. It’s having patience with yourself and others, and recognising that no one is perfect—everyone makes mistakes. It’s letting go of hurt feelings, and moving ahead, ready to do things. It doesn’t mean that all of a sudden what someone did doesn’t hurt or isn’t wrong. It means that you find it in your heart to give the person another chance.
In many ways Forgiveness is about taking power back by “flipping” the mood/situation. I use the analogy of the sparkle jars. Harbouring hurt or anger as a result of someone hurting your feelings can feel like a whirlwind in your tummy but as soon as you forgive it can lead to a sense of calm like when the sparkles fall to the bottom of the jar.
Little Life Message: The best revenge is to move on and find your happy.
Take 20 minutes and write about the personal benefits that resulted from a negative incident.
Think of someone who wronged you recently. Put yourself in their shoes and try to understand their perspective.
Write a forgiveness letter. You don’t have to send it, but read it to yourself each day for a week.
If someone hurts or upsets you, try to understand things from their perspective, then think about whether your reaction is hurting them or you.
We all have beliefs about our own abilities and potential. These beliefs are part of our mindset which is so powerful it can fuel our behaviour and predict our success. Mindset shapes our everyday lives, helping us interpret our experiences and future possibilities.
In her research at Stanford University, Dr. Carol Dweck identified two different types of mindsets. Growth mindset occurs when we believe our intelligence and abilities can be improved upon with effort and the right strategies.
A willingness to confront challenges, a passion for learning and viewing failure as a springboard for growth are all characteristics associated with a growth mindset. Not surprisingly, this type of mindset is strongly linked to greater happiness and achievement in life.
In contrast, those with a fixed mindset believe their intelligence and abilities cannot be altered in a meaningful way. As a result, mistakes are often seen as failures rather than opportunities to grow and learn. When stuck in a fixed mindset, we may fear new experiences, avoid risks, and feel the need to repeatedly prove ourselves over and over.