Self-belief is about having an inner confidence that enables people to understand their purpose and realise that their beliefs shape their actions. Self-esteem has some connections to self-belief. This is how we value ourselves; it is how we perceive our value to the world and how valuable we think we are to others. Self-esteem refers to the confidence in one’s own worth or abilities and affects our trust in others, our relationships, our work – nearly every part of our lives.
Hope means that you expect the best in the future, and you work hard to achieve it. You believe that the future is something that you can control. At school, hope is connected to setting and achieving goals.
I love the imagery of hope and kindness is this picture story book by Bob Graham.
Hope, creativity, persistence are just a few of Caine’s character strengths…
We focus on kindness a few times throughout the year as it is so important in creating empathy and positive emotions in the receiver and (even more so!) the givers of kindness.
Here are a few reasons for being kind:
Being kind feels good. Doing something for someone else really does make us feel good. Just as running releases endorphins, so does kindness. Make someone smile and you’ll feel better for having done so.
Kindness broadens our perspective. In order to be kind, we have to pay attention to what is happening around us. As we notice more things and help others, we get a glimpse of other ways of looking at things. A broader perspective helps us to keep things in context.
Kindness softens our heart. When we look for kind deeds, beauty, and the opportunity for kindness, we’ll find that we are more compassionate and more tolerant. As we practice empathy, it opens our heart to others.
Kindness brightens our world. When we are kind to people, it makes them happy. The more people who experience kindness from us, the more happy people will be in our lives. When those around us are happier, our world becomes a brighter, lighter place to live.
Kindness helps people feel respected and less alone. By recognising someone’s need for help and acting on it in a compassionate manner, it makes the recipient feel valued. It also makes the giver feel better about themselves and more connected.
Kindness makes people want to be around us. One of the most common responses to kindness is gratitude. People appreciate what we’ve done for them. Our kindness is very attractive, so they want to be around us and actually seek us out.
Kindness bears wonderful fruit. Kindness begets kindness, openness, health and reduces the effects of stress on our bodies and our hearts
Kindness begets kindness. When you are kind to others, the impact of your action doesn’t stop there. Many times the recipient of your kindness and others who see or hear about your kindness are inspired to be kinder. The ripples of kindness are truly endless.
As we embark on the new school year we will be focussing on friendship and relationships, both old and new. At Barwon Heads PS the friendship character strength encompasses social intelligence; what we sense about others and what we do with this awareness. Good friendships have a positive impact on wellbeing for a number of reasons. Supportive friendships can alleviate stress and provide security and a sharing ear for tackling difficulties. Being in the company of those that we like can evoke pleasure and laughter. Furthermore, forming new friendships requires an element of bravery and reciprocity. The famous Harvard study (almost 80 years old) into the health and happiness of a group of graduates found that it was relationships that had the most powerful effect on health and that those who cultivated their relationships over the long term tended to live for longer.
With the biggest predictor of happiness and fulfilment being our relationships, the need for us all to pay attention to our friendships becomes evident.
At Barwon Heads PS we use the analogy of “bucket filling” as a metaphor for maintaining good relationships.